“The heart of marriage is memories; and if the two of you happen to have the same ones and can savor your reruns, then your marriage is a gift from the gods.” – Bill Cosby
Ten years. Wow! I can’t even begin to understand how that even happened so fast. It did, though. Like everything, time has passed and has passed at an incredible rate. It has accelerated. But it is good. I love it.
In ten years we have had a great life. Nothing very turbulent. Nothing was very sad. A fight here, a bad decision there, but always a reconciliation. It has always been easy to reconcile with Laura. It’s because she’s my best friend. That’s the secret. That’s the secret to any sustainable marriage. You have to be friends. You can be great lovers, but if you’re not friends, it might not last.
I’ve had the sweetest fortune of making the two brightest eyed, little wonders with my best friend. We get to watch them develop and grow into these people that we want them to be and when we sit back and think about it, it blows our freaking minds to see them turn into human beings.
In ten years we’ve had two cats. Brodie (didn’t care for much) and Marshall (actually don’t mind him). We’ve had one and half dogs. I say one and a half because I already had Banky when Laura and I first met. She was my original girl. She’s gone now and that is the hardest Laura has ever seen me cry. I’m a sensitive person, but water doesn’t usually penetrate my eyes. Ellie is our current dog. She’s perfect for the family. She sleeps with Kennedy and takes Miles’ abuse.
In ten years we have built a friendship contingent on being friends with everybody we meet. This is why I love this woman with everything in my heart. This is why my heart melts when I see her smile in Kennedy’s face and her passion in Miles. The nicest thing was said to us about a month or two ago. We were sitting with friends and throwing beers over one lip and one of our friends said to us, “that’s why I love you two. You have friends for a long time and once you have them, they are friends for life. That’s rare and really cool.”
When she said that to us, we immediately looked at each other and smiled from ear to ear and thanked her. We can’t have friends like that without being friends ourselves. We took a vow when we got married ten years ago to be best friends. That is a vow I take very seriously. I love that vow. I love my best friend.
I love the memories I’ve made with my best friend. We’ve made some great ones together. I savor every single one of them. As long as I hold on to my lucidity and my personal picture show, I will play the reruns and thank the gods for my marriage. Thank you for being my best friend and greatest wife I could ever ask for. I love you, I love you, I love you.
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